How To Influence Others Positively November 21, 2007
Posted by disciple in : Influence, Relationship , add a commentTo influence people is to get people to do things on their own free will. People will do it for you happily without any fear or pressure. This positive influence will draw people to you and work with you. Hence, influencing skill requires a good mix of people skills, communication techniques and a certain degree of assertiveness. Having good people skills will make people feel comfortable working along with you. They will not feel pressured when they work with you. They will feel the need to contribute ideas and their effort to make whatever you get them to do a success.
One way of getting people to be comfortable with you is not to be too opinionated. Encourage people to voice their opinions and ideas. Show them respect by acknowledging their opinions and ideas. Do not disagree with them openly and don’t point out their mistakes even when they are wrong. They make take this personally and will not feel comfortable working with you. Whatever you do, try to find a common ground where everyone can agree.
Always be ready to praise or others when they do something good. People like they effort or contribution to be acknowledged or complimented. By complimenting others, you will win them to your side. Criticizing them will make them avoid you.
When you communicate with others, make sure the choice of words is pleasant and nice. Choice of words is crucial to ensure the message is properly understood. Tone of voice is equally important to. Rather than saying someone is wrong, try to find a middle path to solve the problem like saying ‘let’s try to explore other alternative’. This will save the other person embarrassment and he will not take things personally if the other ideas are better than his or hers.
Assertiveness can get people to work for you when you have the authority to do so. However, assertiveness can be used without being commanding. People will feel at ease working along with you. You need to be able to present your case clearly to people to win them over to you. With these characteristics, you should be able to influence people around you and make them work with you willingly.
How To Keep Friends Forever November 19, 2007
Posted by disciple in : Relationship , add a comment“Amigos Para Siempre” or “Friends for Life? is the theme song for the Barcelona Olympics in 1992 sung by Sarah Brightman and Jose Carreras during the opening ceremony of the Olympics Games. Andrew Lloyd Webber composed this beautiful song,
Friends are not easy to come by. Genuine friends are even harder to find. Hence, making friends is not easy. Therefore, when we have friends we must put in effort to keep the friendship alive.
We can engage with people in various ways to attract and bring them closer to us. Smile is one of the easiest and most contagious methods. People like to see happy faces greeting them. When you smile, you transmit joy and happiness to them. It also symbolizes the gladness in you in meeting them.
Whenever we meet people, always address them with their name. Addressing someone by their name indicates our interest in establishing friendship with them. It shows we are taking interest in them and it will make them take note of our interest in return.
We need to relax whenever we are with someone. This will make them feel comfortable to be with us. Whenever someone is comfortable with one another, they will tend to get closer to each other. Friendship will blossom from here.
When we communicate with the other person, ask questions that will help them to open up and start talking. Nevertheless, do not ask questions that are too personal in nature. This will cause them to feel uncomfortable with our presence. Perhaps, they may even find excuses to walk away.
One of the crucial points in communication is listening. Be a good listener to the other person. Listen to what the other person has to say. Listen attentively. Respond appropriately. We do not need respond with words. Body language and appropriate gestures are good enough to show that we are listening.
It is always easy to make friends and maintain friendship if we have common interest. Try to find common grounds where you can share common interest like hobbies, etc. We can spend many meaningful hours or even days engaging with each other sharing knowledge and information on common interest. Whenever we spend meaningful time together, bonding will take place.
Whenever there are people who share their opinion, differences in opinion will surface. We need to learn how to respect the differences in opinion, as it is a positive sign that both people are prepared to share their ideas and thoughts. Explore the ideas that are put forward and perhaps, you can learn something new from it.
Always be generous with compliments. Give compliments when called for. Give it sincerely and people always appreciate positive feedback. Everyone needs feedback to improve and move forward in his or her life and career.
Generally, people like to join to social functions to meet fiends and associates. Make effort to keep in touch with them by inviting them to do be part of any social functions. The functions may not be parties. It can be any charity work, outdoor activities or even family outings.
Overall, we need to make effort to the flame of friendship burning as bright as ever and for as long as possible. Friendship is for life.